To set or not to set goals is a dilemma that we usually face in the beginning of each year! There are a lot studies proving that people who set the goals are more successful than those who don’t. You can find many articles that are against goal setting arguing that all best intentions are eventually doomed to fail due to various reasons.
Last year I joined the camp “New Year’s resolutions are dead!” as the result my year was the worst I’ve ever had. I had moments in my life when it seemed that it couldn’t get any worse, I was shown that it could. At the same time I am grateful to all the challenges I had because it helped me to open up to my inner wisdom and start listening to my inner voice.
This year I’ve decided to have the best year so I wanted to explorer possibilities to
Look back at what contributed to your wins and loses. Review your previous year without any judgement, state the facts and move on. There were several mistakes that shaped my 2016, namely, not allowing myself to dream and not having a mentor.
This was my number one mistake last year, I was so busy with getting on with life that I didn’t have a bigger picture in mind. I didn’t have any particular goals that would have taken my breath away. I was operating at a surviving level – all I wanted to be able to pay my bills running my own business. The change happened around August when I got an inspiration to create my Social Media and Business Mastery Journey Club, this is a project that I keep working on, hence the name “journey”.
A common mistake that many people make at the dream stage is they filter their dreams through the “reality prism” – how realistic their goals sound. At this stage you need to go wild. I am allowing my dreams to have the life of their own, if I want to write “to go on a world tour and have coffee with Oprah…” so be it.
3 years ago my dream to be a full-time business owner came true. It was only possible because I started working with a business mentor. After 18 months I transition as a coach in my mentor’s team helping other business owners to achieve their dreams. The mistake I made at that time was that I didn’t seek another mentor to further my personal development. This year I have joined Brendon Burchard’s monthly programme to be guided by him.
These tips I’ve learned from Brendon’s video ( the link below)
Singular goals vs progressive goals
Brendon suggests that you need to set a series of goals to keep you motivated to keep progressing throughout the entire year.
Schedule your success
While listening to Brendon I got confirmation to my own mantra “What gets scheduled gets done!”. However it wasn’t easy for me to come to terms that scheduling is the path towards freedom. I used to hate planning and scheduling, I was more a doing-it-when-I-am-feeling-it type of person, I wanted to be spontaneous. I have found my way around this, I still don’t like scheduling but now I schedule absolute minimum that needs to be done during the day and the rest is for spontaneous activities.
This is another tip from Brendon that I am going to apply this year.
Once a week set some time aside to evaluate how you are progressing towards your goals, what’s helping and what obstacles you have encountered. It’s much easier if you track your progress regularly rather feeling disappointed at the end of the year.
If you are not having fun while achieving your goals, you are doing something wrong. Bring joy in what you do. Even it requires to be disciplined in your daily routines you still can add an element of fun. While writing a blog post on the first day of the year may not seem like the most fun activity but the sense of achievement and pride that I have started my year with accomplishing a task for the day brings me tremendous joy.
To make sure that you are going to have an extraordinary year in addition to above mentioned steps you need to have clarity. Clarity what you want to achieve and what can be the easiest ways of doing it. If you would like my help with how to make this year much better than the previous year, book a complimentary 30-minute call with me.
2017 is just around the corner. Is it going to be different?
Or will it be the repeat of 2016 – hopeful and full of plans in the beginning and disappointing in the end?
Let’s face it if you keep saying that you need to do more on social media and still haven’t done anything about it where are the guarantees that it won’t be the same old story in 2017?
There are a few common problems business owners have with their attempts to get results from their social media presence:
• Not having business systems in place – not having a clear process to attract clients – from the moment when they haven’t heard of you till becoming your paying customers.
• Not knowing which social media platform to choose to get visibility for your business.
• Not integrating social media efficiently – you do a lot of work but don’t get the results no wonder if you want to give up.
• Letting your ego dominate your day – causing fear of being visible, being judged and making mistakes.
•While knowing what you need to be doing but for some reason you are not doing it.
If any of the above resonates with you, please, get in touch.
Let me guide you through the labyrinth of social media and create a workable strategy for 2017.
I have an opportunity for you today that will take care of you and your business in 2017 ensuring that your experience and results improve.
Spend 90 min with me where we draft out the strategy for 2017 and create an actionable plan to make it easy for you to implement and save you the reality of “failing to plan, plan to fail”.
Working with me:
• You’ll learn how to be visible to your ideal audience.
• You’ll feel excited to be excited.
• Because it will cover everything that stops you.
• You’ll know which platform is most suitable for you.
• How to reach your clients in the most effective ways.
• How to leverage your time on other social media platforms.
• You’ll feel confident sharing your message to the world.
Book your session with me now and let’s make it easier for you to earn lots of money in 2017.
Your investment is only £297 and 90 minutes of your time to work with me on one to one basis.
(a payment plan is available)
You can book your session for December or January.
If not now then when?
The investment is £297 and 90 minutes of your time. (a payment plan is available)
When I look at somebody’s Social Media presence, I can instantly see whether they are “hiding” from potential customers of not. There are different factors:
Periscope is a new Social Media platform that has been developing rapidly and has 10 million users in 4 months. As somebody who is used to being visible online Periscope has taken me by surprise. In terms I was shocked to discover that it takes me outside my comfort zone.
I can shoot a video in less than 3 minutes explaining how to use Facebook or any other Social Media platform but it takes me half an hour preparation to run a live broadcast.
What I’ve noticed was that I am afraid of letting down live viewers. Normal people are desperately trying to get more viewers to the live shows but I prefer people watching my scope on the replay.
Periscope is not another platform for me, it has a therapeutic effect on me. It makes me dig deeper and discover where else I am limiting myself?
Where else I stop myself from succeeding?
Every Sunday I run reflective scopes looking back to the previous week.
During the last Sunday scope I invited viewers to join me at #sundaysuccess movement where we set our goals for each day to play BIGGER, reach our GREATNESS and STEP UP!
If you want to join follow me on Twitter @ingadeksne use hashtag #sundaysuccess
If you are on Periscope find me there and follow me @ingadeksne
Let’s take one day a time!
Even though I am a big advocate for online networking but nothing compares with live communication with fellow business owners.
Just a year ago I considered networking as a necessary evil. When I combined my day job and my business, attending networking events added more hours to my working day, and I usually felt tired and drained after that.
Yes, I met some nice people, built relationships but it felt like too much effort.
My attitude towards networking events changed when I started my own business on a full-time basis. Then networking events became my only opportunity to see people in real life and dress up for a change. It’s so easy to become a hermit when you run an online business from home.
I believe that networking should be not only for socialising but for growing your business. Especially if you pay membership fees you would like to see the return on investment of your money and time. So I’ve become more critical in choosing which events to attend.
I think it was a “love from the first sight” with this networking organisation.
I liked the structure of the meetings.
I loved welcoming atmosphere.
I learned new information from the speaker of the event.
I met new friends.
Meetings has a balanced mix of social and formal business aspects. You are given an opportunity to tell about your business and what kind of support you are looking for. There are sessions devoted to brainstorm solutions for your current business or personal challenges.
Lately I’ve been attending various groups in different part of London, which is another benefit of being a member of the Fabulous Women &Marvelous Men. As a member I can attend any of the groups.
Through one of the networking events I met my new hairdresser, and she was a visitor not a member at the meeting. This is another bonus – you can have up to three visits to any of the group before you are asked to become a member if you wish to continue attending meetings. By the way April is a Visitors’ Month so you can attend as a guest as many times as you like.
The best part is that Fabulous Women &Marvelous Men has started my speaker’s career. One of the benefits of becoming a Member is being able to talk at the networking events.
In the beginning of 2015 on my list of intentions for 2015 I wrote “Give talks”.
My Business Fairy Godmother, amazing Gayle Edwards aka The Breakthru Diva has launched my speaking adventures.
On 21 April I am talking at Richmond Fabulous Women
On 28 April I am giving a talk at the launch event of the Mastermind Group in East Croydon.
On 6 May I am giving presentation at the Social Media Special – How to get fans on Facebook at Interesting Business Talks & Events Meetup in London.
0n 29 May – Southampton Fabulous Women
Please, in the comments share what your experience with finding right networking group is!
Some of them I met in real life, some of them spoke to me from their books, and I do hope that I will meet them one day in real life.
Some of them inspired me with their lives and work.
Ann teaches how to create financial freedom in your life. Her personality fascinates me and I am amazed with her devotion to South Africa, and her passion to empower women in all over the world.
I came across her book in 2013, I’ve signed up for her Financial Freedom University. That was a highlight of the year in 2014.
I’ve changed my attitude towards money completely and my relationship with money changed as well.
Even though it’s a long way till calling myself a millionaire or financially free. I know for sure that I am heading in the right direction.
I’ve attended Ann’s Financial Freedom live event in October in 2014. It was packed with invaluable information about money management and investment.
But I wanted to share a lesson in setting seemingly impossible goals.
Ann demonstrated how to break the wooden board with just a palm of your hand. And in the beginning I thought it was just a fancy way how to demonstrate goal setting.
I didn’t know that it wasn’t just a demonstration. Our task was to hit the board and break it. The activity itself taught me so much about my approach to difficult tasks.
First of all, I wanted to refuse doing it because I didn’t want to hurt myself.
I didn’t believe that I can do it, so I found so many reasons why I don’t need to do it.
Think for a moment, don’t we all have a “sour-grape” syndrome when there is a slightest possibility of failure.
Do we sometimes give up on dreaming because failing is painful?
Then I became curious, I wanted to see whether I can do it too.
This was the main revelation – curiosity is a remedy for fear.
If you feel fearful switch your mind to curiosity and you will go into a resourceful state of mind.
Then I did it, and it was easy, it didn’t hurt and it was quickly. I dismissed my achievements in a second. If it was so easy, everyone can do it, so it is not a big deal after all.
Only when I saw that not all of people managed to do it and it’s not that easy after all, only then my achievement seemed valuable.
Do you act like this – dismiss your successes, but scold yourself harshly for the smallest mistakes?
Lesson learned – it’s important to appreciate and acknowledge our successes, no matter how small or easy they are. We are worth of celebration!
I took broken pieces of the board home to keep them as a reminder every time I face challenges or set “impossible” goals.
I took a pause in journaling my soloprenur’s adventures because I was focusing on finishing my eBook. I was working till 2 o’clock in the morning for three days solid.
It would be wiser, of course, outsource this work to somebody who does it professionally and just pay some money.
I wanted to do it myself, all my childhood I was told that I don’t have artistic skills and I translated it as not being a creative person. So this was my project to express my creativity.
During the whole process I enhanced the Power of Prioritisation. I had to make some choices, not the easy ones and set some boundaries. I’ve cancelled all going outs with the friends. The funny thing is that I don’t go out very often anyway, previously it was because I used my evenings for working on my business. This time I agreed to meet some friends whom I had been ignoring for a while. I did it again. I cancel on them. I know that some of my “friends” have given up on me. Some of them think that I work too much and it is true. I work too much.
But it is a conscious choice. I want to invest my time in building a solid foundation for my business. I can’t see myself going back to employment (don’t get me wrong, I will, if it’s necessary, but prefer not to.)
Another temptation was to go and help my cousin with babysitting. Now when my daughter is away she needs my help. But I had to be aware of my commitments to myself and put myself first. It’s much harder to be selfish.
Anyway, my hard work has paid off and I’ve produced 128 pages of information and video tutorials of Facebook marketing. This is a guidebook for business owners to be able to use Facebook as a marketing tool to generate more business.
If you want to download it, you can do it here, and also you can read what other people are saying.
Here is the video of my eBook launch.
This is my Day 9 of the first 90 days of being a Solopreneur.
Many motivational speakers point out necessity to have good health and fit body to run business successfully.
Richard Branson has given up eating beef, not only for health reasons but also to reduce impact on environment. I came this article today
When you understand that quality of your work and income depends on your energy and vitality levels, looking after oneself becomes an inseparable part of the business plan. Besides when you are self-employed nobody pays for your sick leave.
Even before I started my business as a full-time occupation I had become a health fanatic. I went wheat and sugar free. There are different opinions about being gluten free, but I am not that interested in them, I know that I feel different, much more energised and upbeat than before.
I’ve killed one of my juicers recently while trying to create something super healthy. Now I have bought a nutribullet to take my eating habits to a new level.
I had a session with a wellness coach today and I was mentioning all my plans, she recommended to join “30 day green smoothie challenge” which I plan to start when I finish my ebook, because I know that the moment you start introducing something new, things can get worse.
Today’s parts of the ebook :
This is my Day 8 of the first 90 days of being a Solopreneur.
I am very much against the dictatorship even when the directives come from myself. I hate to-do-lists in general.
In the past I used to write long lists and then rewrite unfinished tasks for the following day. Can you relate to that?
Now I am taking things gently. I have bought a super nice and quite expensive notebook where I write things that I am going to do during the day.
I approach this in two steps. Step 1 – brainstorming ideas of things that need to be done, I write them in my normal working notebook. Then I value which of the actions need to be done no matter what and I write them down in my pretty notebook. Usually I write no more then 4 items and I don’t start doing anything else before those 4 are finished.
I was really pleased to discover that by 12 pm today the majority of urgent work was done, and I could focus on my ebook.
I was so pleased with myself that I decided to have a quick nap for 10 minutes.
I woke up 3 hours later. I think I was trying to compensate a lack of sleep from previous months. Despite all of it I’ve managed to do quite a lot.
My point is that there are loads and loads of information how you can be more productive. You need to find your own way that works for you. I’ve never come across advice on getting pretty notebooks. But it works for me, because I spent money on it I make sure that I get the return on it. The same goes for you. Discover what works for you personally!
So today’s instalment of my ebook is on creating a photo quote. Here you can download it How to create a photoquote
This is my Day 7 of the first 90 days of being a Solopreneur.
Starting something new always bring changes. Changes are always something unknown. Unknown is uncomfortable. Uncomfortable means being outside your comfort zone. Being outside comfort zone means growth.
In my books growth means always up, achieving more, getting more done. I am very demanding towards myself. Especially now, when I created something new in my life and I couldn’t afford to fail.
I haven’t been very productive during last days and I have a feeling that time is passing me by and I am not achieving that much. Luckily for me I am a part of a coaching group where I can share my frustrations. I mentioned that I feel like a “confused butterfly” that made an effort to go through transformation, has the wings now but don’t know what to do next. One of my fellow business owners suggested:
“Let those wings soak up the sun. I watched a program about dragonflies yesterday, they spend a couple of years under water and are drab looking. Then they crawl out up a green shoot, rest for a little while in a cocoon, then burst out in truly beautiful colours and fly creating wonder where ever they go.”
So I am soaking up the sun.
Today I’ve come across explanation of GROWTH by Julia Cameron in her book “The Artist’s Way”
“Growth is an erratic forward movement: two steps forward, one step back. Remember that and be very gentle with yourself. … You are capable of great things on Tuesday, but on Wednesday you may slide backward. This is normal. Growth occurs in spurts. You will lie dormant sometimes. Do not be discouraged. Think of it as resting.”
In the moments like these I am looking for uplifting messages, like this one by Les Brown.
This is my Day 6 of the first 90 days of being a Solopreneur.
Summary of my journey so far is in this video.