To set or not to set goals is a dilemma that we usually face in the beginning of each year! There are a lot studies proving that people who set the goals are more successful than those who don’t. You can find many articles that are against goal setting arguing that all best intentions are eventually doomed to fail due to various reasons.
Last year I joined the camp “New Year’s resolutions are dead!” as the result my year was the worst I’ve ever had. I had moments in my life when it seemed that it couldn’t get any worse, I was shown that it could. At the same time I am grateful to all the challenges I had because it helped me to open up to my inner wisdom and start listening to my inner voice.
This year I’ve decided to have the best year so I wanted to explorer possibilities to
Look back at what contributed to your wins and loses. Review your previous year without any judgement, state the facts and move on. There were several mistakes that shaped my 2016, namely, not allowing myself to dream and not having a mentor.
This was my number one mistake last year, I was so busy with getting on with life that I didn’t have a bigger picture in mind. I didn’t have any particular goals that would have taken my breath away. I was operating at a surviving level – all I wanted to be able to pay my bills running my own business. The change happened around August when I got an inspiration to create my Social Media and Business Mastery Journey Club, this is a project that I keep working on, hence the name “journey”.
A common mistake that many people make at the dream stage is they filter their dreams through the “reality prism” – how realistic their goals sound. At this stage you need to go wild. I am allowing my dreams to have the life of their own, if I want to write “to go on a world tour and have coffee with Oprah…” so be it.
3 years ago my dream to be a full-time business owner came true. It was only possible because I started working with a business mentor. After 18 months I transition as a coach in my mentor’s team helping other business owners to achieve their dreams. The mistake I made at that time was that I didn’t seek another mentor to further my personal development. This year I have joined Brendon Burchard’s monthly programme to be guided by him.
These tips I’ve learned from Brendon’s video ( the link below)
Singular goals vs progressive goals
Brendon suggests that you need to set a series of goals to keep you motivated to keep progressing throughout the entire year.
Schedule your success
While listening to Brendon I got confirmation to my own mantra “What gets scheduled gets done!”. However it wasn’t easy for me to come to terms that scheduling is the path towards freedom. I used to hate planning and scheduling, I was more a doing-it-when-I-am-feeling-it type of person, I wanted to be spontaneous. I have found my way around this, I still don’t like scheduling but now I schedule absolute minimum that needs to be done during the day and the rest is for spontaneous activities.
This is another tip from Brendon that I am going to apply this year.
Once a week set some time aside to evaluate how you are progressing towards your goals, what’s helping and what obstacles you have encountered. It’s much easier if you track your progress regularly rather feeling disappointed at the end of the year.
If you are not having fun while achieving your goals, you are doing something wrong. Bring joy in what you do. Even it requires to be disciplined in your daily routines you still can add an element of fun. While writing a blog post on the first day of the year may not seem like the most fun activity but the sense of achievement and pride that I have started my year with accomplishing a task for the day brings me tremendous joy.
To make sure that you are going to have an extraordinary year in addition to above mentioned steps you need to have clarity. Clarity what you want to achieve and what can be the easiest ways of doing it. If you would like my help with how to make this year much better than the previous year, book a complimentary 30-minute call with me.
Some of them I met in real life, some of them spoke to me from their books, and I do hope that I will meet them one day in real life.
Some of them inspired me with their lives and work.
Ann teaches how to create financial freedom in your life. Her personality fascinates me and I am amazed with her devotion to South Africa, and her passion to empower women in all over the world.
I came across her book in 2013, I’ve signed up for her Financial Freedom University. That was a highlight of the year in 2014.
I’ve changed my attitude towards money completely and my relationship with money changed as well.
Even though it’s a long way till calling myself a millionaire or financially free. I know for sure that I am heading in the right direction.
I’ve attended Ann’s Financial Freedom live event in October in 2014. It was packed with invaluable information about money management and investment.
But I wanted to share a lesson in setting seemingly impossible goals.
Ann demonstrated how to break the wooden board with just a palm of your hand. And in the beginning I thought it was just a fancy way how to demonstrate goal setting.
I didn’t know that it wasn’t just a demonstration. Our task was to hit the board and break it. The activity itself taught me so much about my approach to difficult tasks.
First of all, I wanted to refuse doing it because I didn’t want to hurt myself.
I didn’t believe that I can do it, so I found so many reasons why I don’t need to do it.
Think for a moment, don’t we all have a “sour-grape” syndrome when there is a slightest possibility of failure.
Do we sometimes give up on dreaming because failing is painful?
Then I became curious, I wanted to see whether I can do it too.
This was the main revelation – curiosity is a remedy for fear.
If you feel fearful switch your mind to curiosity and you will go into a resourceful state of mind.
Then I did it, and it was easy, it didn’t hurt and it was quickly. I dismissed my achievements in a second. If it was so easy, everyone can do it, so it is not a big deal after all.
Only when I saw that not all of people managed to do it and it’s not that easy after all, only then my achievement seemed valuable.
Do you act like this – dismiss your successes, but scold yourself harshly for the smallest mistakes?
Lesson learned – it’s important to appreciate and acknowledge our successes, no matter how small or easy they are. We are worth of celebration!
I took broken pieces of the board home to keep them as a reminder every time I face challenges or set “impossible” goals.